Resilience is that power that we can all develop to overcome difficult situations and learn from them, becoming stronger and more effective people. Resilience does not imply the absence of problems or suffering, this would be utopian; it means knowing that we cannot control many of the circumstances that arise in our lives, but we can take responsibility and decide how we perceive and react to them. It means deciding to live life in "intelligent mode" and putting everything that happens to you at your service to learn and achieve your goals more effectively.
Very good, and how do we develop it? I share with you my formula to achieve it, with these seven tips:
1. Trust yourself and life as an intelligent process. You have the power to handle everything that happens to you, even if you don't know it. You have the ability to control your emotions and reactions. Do not give them your power, so that they control you.
2. Set clear, green goals and give your life purpose. Some people let their life take control of them. You have the rudder. Write your goals in the short, medium, and long term clearly, those that are really yours, not those of third parties or society; make sure that they do not harm the rights of your environment, (I mean the rights, not the whims); and base those goals on a why that is compelling enough to serve as motivation when obstacles appear.
3. Accept reality. Face it, instead of resisting it or lying. Resisting will only prolong the role of the victim, drama, and suffering. Lying will mean being found out and losing your credibility, while courage and truth, sooner rather than later, will set you free.
4. Detect, without procrastinating, the positive in each situation and what you should learn from it. Everything, absolutely everything, no matter how difficult or negative it may seem, has positive aspects and your job is to focus and detect them. If you don't, life will most likely put you in increasingly difficult and painful situations until you learn your lesson. We can even go further and assume, as my friend Mabel would say, that really NOTHING is
negative, because EVERYTHING is an opportunity to learn.
5. Cultivate relationships with valuable and affectionate people. They will inspire you, guide you, accompany you in the process or help you learn and implement your learning more easily.
6. Put every experience at your service. Use the learning to come out of the situation stronger and detect how that experience serves you and makes you more effective in achieving your goals.
7. Always remember that balance and most of the most precious things in life: peace, health, success, abundance, well-being, happiness are your decision.
For many people, it may seem impossible since it involves dismantling their entire system of limiting beliefs. But it is absolutely possible to achieve it; it only depends on you and it constitutes the difference between turning your life into a drama or into an enriching and pleasant experience. Don't you think that living in tragedy is much more difficult? What are you waiting for to develop your superpower of resilience?
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