For me, attitude is the way you walk through life and respond to what it presents to you and I am convinced that you can choose it and work on it, regardless of your age.
I have chosen to develop an attitude that I have called “Constructive Attitude”, and I work on it every day because it helps me live a fuller life and multiply my results. The Constructive Attitude implies responsibility, determination, that you become the person you are looking for in the other, self-confidence, thought and valuable words, that you activate your intelligent mode, that you have joy and a sense of humor, that you practice detachment and acceptance and live on balance. In this first part, we will be talking about responsibility, determination, and being the person you are looking for in the other.
Responsibility
As we have discussed in previous articles, many people think that they are victims of their lives and that their reality is the fault of the past, bad luck, their circumstances, or other people. On the contrary, others feel they are leaders of their lives with the power to impact their reality. And it is true that you cannot control all your circumstances, but you can choose how you respond to them, and that determines your results and creates your reality.
I share this example with you so that you can more easily understand the scope and impact that a responsible attitude can have in your life. Eugenia and Amelia are sisters and daughters of a single mother who works all day to cover the family's needs. Amelia found it easier to study because she had an excellent memory and great math skills. However, Eugenia dedicated herself to studying with commitment and discipline, she studied design, which was her passion, she soon began to work and move up within the company that hired her, and with her salary, each time better and higher than that of his mother helped cover expenses and increased the quality of life for everyone at home.
On her part, Amelia fell in love with a young man when she was 17 years old, she became pregnant and could not complete her secondary education, nor did she work, to dedicate herself to taking care of her baby. The young man was with her for some time and when the boy was barely 3 years old, he abandoned them, repeating the story of her mother and procuring a much more difficult life for himself than Eugenia's.
In this example, you realize that both young women, faced with the same circumstances, one of them with even more abilities than the other, created completely different realities, as a consequence of the way in which each chose to respond to those same circumstances.
So, I invite you to take responsibility, to make the most of your talents and strengths, and remember that your reality has been and will be the same as the way you choose to respond to your circumstances, problems and challenges.
Determination
The University of Pennsylvania psychology professor Angela Lee Duckworth was a former public school teacher in New York. There she observed that her most intelligent students were not those with the highest IQ, social intelligence, or talent, but those who focused on overcoming her obstacles; and she concluded that to achieve a goal you need determination, which for her means passion and perseverance to achieve long-term goals.
I wanted to share Professor Angela's findings with you because they provide excellent news: achieving any goal is not the result of your IQ, intelligence, or talent. Nor from the circumstances or conduct of other people; factors that are out of your control. But it is a consequence of your determination, passion, commitment, discipline, perseverance, courage, of taking steps forward despite the fear that it is normal to feel, and all this depends solely on you.
You can change your reality with responsibility, determination, and personal work; and all this is within your reach.
Be the person you look for in the other
We generally have expectations of other people and are often frustrated when others don't think, feel, or behave as we would like. But have you stopped to reflect on yourself and your behavior? What logic would it have to expect from others what you are not willing to be or give them?
Choose to be a better version of yourself every day. Be good, love the others, try not to judge, and work to align your behavior with important values such as kindness, respect, fairness, integrity, and honesty. Try to make any place better because you passed by there. Whenever you can, help those who ask you. Finally, remember that giving and receiving are the same, and those who give always receive, even if it is through different people or situations. Many authors agree that equals attract each other, so it is an excellent choice to work and become the best person you can be, to have the opportunity to surround yourself with constructive people like you.
Thus we finish the first part of the constructive attitude and I say goodbye inviting you to experience the well-being and power that makes you feel responsible, determined, and what you expect from the other.
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